My Friday night

dragonfli: cool
dragonfli: tell me
DHH: start from dinner, or from "after dinner"
dragonfli: dinner
DHH: dinner was at restaurant in city
dragonfli: cool
DHH: was perfect balance of down home & gourmet food
DHH: he ordered a bottle of wine
DHH: we talked
DHH: early on
DHH: he was very suggestive or flirty
DHH: being not at all coy about what was to come later on
DHH: which made her blush a bit
DHH: I think
DHH: she had the hots for me
DHH: so it was kind of a schoolgirl crush
DHH: of sorts
DHH: or something
dragonfli: :D
DHH: anyway
DHH: we chatted
DHH: had a nice dinner
DHH: then
DHH: time came to go
DHH: instead of me following
DHH: or him trying to give directions
DHH: he sent her with me
DHH: (fully hoping she and I would get things going in the car)
dragonfli: oooo nice move
DHH: yeah
DHH: I've noticed this move a couple times with couples – Send the woman off with the guy so they can get it going.
DHH: thing is, she was being shy
DHH: and I didn't want to push it
DHH: so we just talked
DHH: and drove
DHH: to... their boat
dragonfli: cool
DHH: a 2 bedroom big boat
DHH: like a small floating apartment
DHH: she was being a little bashful
DHH: we got onboard
dragonfli: coy
DHH: she put on some music
DHH: he gave me the tour
DHH: we sat down on this kind of L shaped couch
DHH: her betweenus
DHH: he starts rubbing her leg
DHH: giving her a little playful teasing for being shy
DHH: says once she gets going, she's fine
DHH: I decided
DHH: I'd help break the ice
DHH: So I stood up and took my shirt off
DHH: and sat back down with her
DHH: she asked me if I had rules
DHH: specifically to find out if kissing was ok
DHH: I was like "sure"
DHH: so we all started to make out
DHH: it was hot
dragonfli: nice
DHH: she gave me such expressive kisses
dragonfli: she was hungry
DHH: I really felt her communicating how she felt about me
DHH: hungry, vulnerable, open
DHH: just very very hot
DHH: then her top came off
DHH: BOOBS
DHH: wow, she's endowed
dragonfli: nice
DHH: wearing a very hot light green lace thing
DHH: play continues
DHH: I kiss the back of her neck, caress her
DHH: he's kissing her, our hands are caressing all over
DHH: her pants come off
DHH: matching lace boy shorts thing on
DHH: hot
DHH: the necking continues
DHH: the bra comes off
DHH: rubbing her gently through her panties
DHH: she's getting responsive
dragonfli: mmmm
DHH: he and I peel her panties off together
DHH: no word spoken, we just both knew
DHH: she's ready
DHH: he has one side, I have other
DHH: she's nude
dragonfli: nice
DHH: kissing one, being sucked and nibbled by the other
DHH: I explore
DHH: her pussy is very very wet
DHH: I'm on her left, so I have to use my left hand
DHH: I feel it, trying to get a sense of her layout down there
DHH: give her some rubbing
DHH: some penetration
DHH: she responds well
DHH: he goes down on her a bit
DHH: while she and I make out- very sweet, gentle sensual, I caress her cheek tenderly. She was sweet and shy, and it was the right style of touch.
DHH: neck
DHH: breasts
dragonfli: nice
DHH: then I kiss my way lower
DHH: kneel in front of her
DHH: face between her legs
DHH: and I open her
DHH: and begin some slightly more than gentle licking
DHH: which gets her gasping
DHH: mean while he's working her breasts
DHH: kissing
DHH: whispering things to her
DHH: I keep working away
DHH: she has sort of a closed pussy
DHH: small inner lips or large outer ones, depending on perspective
DHH: so her clit is buried a bit
DHH: she's trimmed
DHH: quite lovely to go down on
DHH: the stimulation of two men is too much for her
DHH: she's a little over stimulated
DHH: so I slow it down, take the edge off
DHH: it takes a while. Maybe 5-10 min?
DHH: but it builds
DHH: and she comes
DHH: and I'm very happy
dragonfli: cool
dragonfli: was she a squirter
DHH: somewhere in the previous making out she had put her hand in my pants
DHH: not a squirter
DHH: I've never encountered one of those
DHH: so he askes her is she'd like to move to the bed
DHH: she heads in
DHH: I strip
DHH: we get in the bed together
DHH: me on her left again
DHH: caressing
DHH: he asks her who she'd like to fuck first
DHH: "well, we have a guest"
DHH: but before that happens
DHH: she goes down on me
DHH: it was a spiritually transforming experience
dragonfli: was she good
DHH: she was giving me the most loving, tender head I'd ever had
DHH: it wasn't quite going to make me cum
DHH: you give amazing head
DHH: for that
DHH: you know how to make a man cum with your mouth
DHH: she was kind of trying for that,
DHH: but mostly just giving my penis a very expressive kiss
dragonfli: cool
DHH: it's hard to describe
DHH: I was feeling this powerful emotional connection to her. She was showing me love and tenderness as I’d never experienced it in bed before.
DHH: she kept at it for quite a while, too
dragonfli: btw im masterbating
DHH: go for it
DHH: ;)
DHH: but the feelings I had
DHH: made me not want to fuck her
DHH: but to be close
DHH: so after she had been down there for a long and wonderful while, I suggested she come up
DHH: and be on top of me
DHH: and kiss me
DHH: while he took her form behind
DHH: it was awesome
DHH: she's passionately making out with me
DHH: while grinding her hips against him
DHH: getting fucked
DHH: he loves it
DHH: she loves it
DHH: I love it: I'm holding her closely, caressing her
DHH: it was very passionate and intimate
DHH: to be with her in that way
DHH: while she was feeling that
DHH: he gets off
DHH: hearing us make out
DHH: and cums
dragonfli: wow
dragonfli: did u fuck her
DHH: ands so he lies down
DHH: and recovers
DHH: she and I make out
DHH: she goes down on me again
DHH: cuz now she and I are gonna fuck
DHH: and I know
DHH: it's gonna be very intense
dragonfli: yummy
DHH: I roll the condom on
DHH: she straddles me
DHH: rides me a little
DHH: but I keep falling out
DHH: it's just a bad position
DHH: she invites me to be on top
DHH: so we roll over
dragonfli: was she a big girl
DHH: curvy
DHH: not big
DHH: but curvy
dragonfli: because u are well endowed
DHH: maybe a few sizes smaller than you
DHH: dress size wise
DHH: dunno
DHH: hard to estimate
DHH: she's 5'4
DHH: maybe 135-145?
dragonfli: ok
dragonfli: so
dragonfli: you on top
DHH: yes
DHH: so I slide it in her
DHH: we kiss
DHH: start to thrust
DHH: enter her deeper and deeper
DHH: then it gets intense
DHH: and we just fuck
DHH: passionate
DHH: she opens her eyes
DHH: loks right in mine
DHH: it was amazing
DHH: as if she was telling me
DHH: how she felt
DHH: i just felt such a sense
DHH: of her wanting me
DHH: welcomeing me
DHH: accepting me
DHH: I had never felt that completely adored and wanted
DHH: so it really touched me
DHH: so we go at it
DHH: just passionately bumping our bodies together- at one point she reaches up and puts her hand to my neck, kind of slight erotic asphyxiation thing: wow that was hot. Lovingly play choked. I never knew I liked it, but it was just so right.
dragonfli: i am happy u had such a great experience
DHH: then
DHH: I want it to be more emotionally intense
DHH: so I whisper to her
DHH: we're going to slow down now
DHH: and we have a slow screw
DHH: and slowly
DHH: I build up to coming
DHH: and I let it build
DHH: and she can feel it build
DHH: and he's watching and knows it's going to happen
DHH: and she holds me close
DHH: and kisses me
DHH: and I cum inside of her
DHH: and it's fantastic
DHH: then just kiss her
DHH: and snuggle in
dragonfli: nice
DHH: and she strokes me
DHH: it was very sweet and loving
DHH: He teases
DHH: "I think we found you a new toy"
DHH: we all have a chuckle
DHH: she blushes
DHH: at how much she loved it
DHH: I loved it
DHH: I go to the bathroom to clean up
DHH: he turns her on her side
DHH: and fucks her from behind
DHH: I come back to bed
DHH: and kiss and caress her while she's getting fucked
dragonfli: nice
dragonfli: i really want to be with 2 guys
DHH: which turns him on
DHH: and he comes
DHH: and then we lay there talking and caressing
DHH: she was super wiped out at this point
DHH: kind of face down
DHH: sleepy
DHH: I wanted
DHH: to take her from behind
DHH: but opted to let her rest
dragonfli: cool
DHH: it was midnight or so
DHH: she brought us our clothes
DHH: I gave her a hug from behind when she and I were alone for a moment
DHH: again
DHH: I could just feel this connection with her
DHH: don't get me wrong
DHH: I'm not falling in love or anything
DHH: but there was this emotional connectedness that went with the physical that was really wonderful
DHH: I hadn't experienced that before in play sex
dragonfli: that as nice
DHH: They e-mailed this morning
DHH: and want to get together again
DHH: as do I
DHH: dunno when I'll have time
DHH: I got the impression
DHH: from some comments
DHH: that he lets her play on her own
DHH: while he's away on trips for business
DHH: I have a feeling they're thinking of me for that role
DHH: which could be nice
dragonfli: yes
DHH: I'd like to come clean about being married
DHH: cuz I think we'd have a great ongoing relationship
DHH: I don't think they'd care too much
DHH: but I plan to feel them out on the issue
DHH: did u get off?
DHH: ;)
DHH: I have a meeting date at 4 pm today
DHH: so I have to run
DHH: I have some work I have to do
dragonfli: still am
DHH: before I leave
dragonfli: ok have a great day
DHH: I dunno if the date will lead to play
DHH: or just be a meeting
dragonfli: glad u had a great experience
DHH: I think it's 80% chance just meeting
DHH: thanksDHH: I feel great about it

This weekend

Well JJ want to meet me at a bar on Sat afternoon, and Friday night I'm on with Smart couple. I don't think I'll see VV couple. If nothing happens with JJ, maybe I'll see if Dragonfli wants to play.

Sunday, friends arrive, and play time ends till the weekend.

I'll post when I can.

To tieme.spankme

Thanks so much for taking an interest. It feels great that someone understands and cares.

I don't know whether I'm right or justified in any of this.

I don't know whether my wife doesn't care. I think, in her own way, she does care. But she's not very sensitive, meaning she's just not tuned into the needs or cares of other people. It's not just me, it's everyone. This trait helps her in some things: She's a brutal negotiator, and great inher career because she's fearless. She doesn't fear rejection of any kind, because she simply doesn't care.

And it's clear that she wants things from the relationship. She likes it when she gets crepes. The crepes make her happy. When I cook for her (Like Water for Chocolate), she loves what I make.

It doesn't dawn on her at all that sometimes, food is my attempt to reach out to her sensually.

Valentine's day this last week: I sent her some very tasteful nude "figure study" pictures of myself I did (camera, photoshop). I spoofed an e-mail to her from "your lover" and told her to open the enclosure when she was alone.

So right away, she knew what they were and who they were probably from.

She waited about 8 hours to open them.

Now yes, in her defence, there were technical issues in her way. But even when I helped her overcome those (she's on the road right now, and was on the road then), she still not only thought but TOLD ME she was going to check her e-mail first.

ALL DAY I had been asking "did you look yet?".

So I send her these hot pics, it's clear they're hot, it's clear I want her to see them, it's probably clear I put a lot of time and thought into planning a remote valentine's day present like this, and she just ignores this, and slaps me in my face by explicitly priorotizing e-mail over seeing me naked.

ANd the thing is, she really didn't notice she was doing anything wrong, until I couldn't take it and got mad at her. At which she was mystified. She thought I was overly sensitive.

She sent me a card. It was nice. It arrive on the 15th.

So you ask: does she care? I think she likes me. I think she likes sharing resources and life and household with me.

But I think that's about it.

I would love to have a happy marriage with her. I'd love to have a great sex life with her. I've brought her books, articles, I've ordered the good vibrations catalog, I've made it clear that I'm open to being more sexual. I've tried to teach her to flirt and be playful. I've given her very clear ideas of all the little things she could do to make me feel like she's trying.

But there are no changes.

So this weekend, I've got some dates.

Getting interesting

Well, Smart couple wants to see me friday night. So that's gonna happen! Mean while, a new couple, Jack & Jill, or JJ for purposes here, has found me. Seems she wants to do it, and he wants to watch it.

Um, Ok!

She's got a fine, fine body, and seems a lot of fun. Dunno if that will happen this weekend or not, but we'll see. They want to do a meet and greet first. Cool.

I also have a couple new e-mails waiting for me on the "dating" site I use, but I can't get at those just yet. One seems an invite from a guy, the other probably not.

Meanwhile, dragonfli hinted about Saturday, as did Vcouple. I'm not sure how I feel about either of them.

Bummer is I have friends coming from out of town on Sunday, so the party ends for me pretty soon.

But Kerri is coming to town the weekend after this one, and we're gonna have fun.

So I think I'm gonna get my fill.

It'll be an interesting experiment. To see how I react to all this sex. Will I find it satisfying? Will something be missing? How will I feel facing my wife again?

Who knows. But right now, I'd rather regret doing a thing than not doing a thing.

Today's adventure

From my IM conversation, telling the story. It's been edited to keep it anonymous.

DHH: sorry about earlier
dragonfli: no prob
dragonfli: did he come over
DHH: yep
DHH: wanna hear about it?
dragonfli: please
DHH: well he asked me to wear just the soccer shorts
DHH: like I did when we first met
DHH: and I turned the heat up here
dragonfli: cool
DHH: by the time he arrived, I was running around the house in just soccer shorts
DHH: he had said he wanted to do some ass play
DHH: I told him there wasn't anything here to play with
DHH: he stopped at the supermarket on the way over
DHH: So he had brought 3 carrots
DHH: a banana
DHH: and a bottle brush
DHH: I thought the banana was ambitious of him
DHH: I put my lesbian porn in the VCR
DHH: he laid out his toys
DHH: and began to fondle me through my shorts while I stood there
dragonfli: nice
DHH: you can tell he really likes my body
DHH: kind of cupped my balls
dragonfli: who wouldn’t
DHH: just felt my package
dragonfli: you have a great body
DHH: rubbed my ass
DHH: eventually he started to get into my pants
DHH: had me slide of my shorts
DHH: rimmed me a bit
DHH: (which I'd probably never do to someone else, but I made sure I was super clean cuz I knew he might try that)
DHH: he kept applying pressure to the space between my balls and my hole
DHH: eventually he wet a finger
DHH: and started to tease my ass
DHH: all the while working my dick with his hand
DHH: I had my eyes on the porn
DHH: mostly
DHH: then he had me sit down
DHH: and started to go down on me
DHH: and since I haven't cum in a few days
DHH: I started to get close
DHH: I told him so
DHH: he slowed down
DHH: but took some of the Vaseline I had laid out
DHH: and used it to get his finger
DHH: slowly in me
DHH: and once I relaxed a bit
DHH: he greased up one of the carrots
DHH: tip thick as a magic marker
DHH: a little curved
DHH: he had been strategic in his selection
DHH: and slipped it in
DHH: all the while giving me oral
DHH: it was pretty intense
DHH: he used my arousal from the oral
DHH: to get me to accept deeper and deeper penetration
DHH: always pushing it in, then drawing it back
DHH: eventually
DHH: I had no idea how deep it was
DHH: but it was very intense
DHH: and uncomfortable
DHH: but not painful
DHH: kept feeling like I had to go to the bathroom
DHH: which made me clench a bit
DHH: which didn't help
DHH: several times
DHH: I would have cum
DHH: but the discomfort from the anal
DHH: balanced out the pleasure
DHH: and my brain was trying to sort out which feelings were coming from which parts
DHH: so it was a pretty intense experience
DHH: as I got more wound up
DHH: he thrust deeper
DHH: and I whimpered a bit
DHH: eventually, I gave up and tapped him on the shoulder to back off a bit with the carrot
DHH: At this point
DHH: he decided it was time for me to cum
DHH: so he backed off with the thrusting
DHH: and sucked me off
DHH: it was a rather intense orgasm
DHH: the ass play and the orgasm left me feeling pretty wiped out
DHH: but he kept going
DHH: he swallowed, of course
DHH: and then continued to play with me for a good 10-15 minutes
DHH: I think he was hoping I'd spring to life again
DHH: but I'm pretty sure the ass stuff did something to me that kept me from springing to life right away again.
DHH: he kept doing things that felt good
DHH: and then things that were intense and made me squirm
DHH: it was a lot of fun
DHH: to be played with.
DHH: he had to go back to work
DHH: so he washed his hands
DHH: and then took off
DHH: the end
dragonfli: wow
dragonfli: what a intense experience for you
DHH: yeah
DHH: rather interesting
dragonfli: I can orgasm multiple while being ass penetrated
DHH: interesting
dragonfli: it is always quite intense
DHH: yeah
DHH: I knew it would be intense
DHH: cuz the contractions go right through there
dragonfli: it has something to do with the stimulation of both places at the same time]
dragonfli: but if done right its great
DHH: I think he was a little too interested in seeing how much penetration I could take
DHH: but that's ok
DHH: that's part of the experience
dragonfli: interesting
dragonfli: and you have fucked his wife before
DHH: yes
DHH: with him
DHH: of course
dragonfli: cool... double the pleasure for
dragonfli: you
DHH: yes
DHH: and her
DHH: and him
DHH: actually
DHH: everybody wins
dragonfli: does she know he came over to fuck you
DHH: I don't think so
DHH: but glass houses
dragonfli: true
DHH: but
DHH: that he's open to 1 on 1 play with guys
DHH: makes me more careful with him
dragonfli: yes
DHH: that said
DHH: I'm not gonna catch anything from a carrot up my ass
DHH: :p
dragonfli: lol I would imagine not
DHH: and it's mitigated
DHH: in my mind
DHH: by the fact that he has a wife
DHH: that he does care for
dragonfli: yes
DHH: and he's had a vasectomy
DHH: so if he ever got anything
DHH: she'd get it too
dragonfli: so u wont get pregnant
DHH: lol
DHH: rofl
DHH: :))
dragonfli: =))
DHH: that was very funny
DHH: :D
dragonfli: :-*
DHH: so anyway, that's my story
DHH: what do you think?
dragonfli: I think that was a intense experience
dragonfli: but I was kind of turned on by it ...why?
dragonfli: did you enjoy it
DHH: I care what you think
DHH: yeah it was enjoyable
DHH: and horizon broadening
dragonfli: definitely
dragonfli: did you like being used like a sex toy
DHH: yeah
DHH: definitely
DHH: became aware of that
DHH: at moments
DHH: it's really nice
DHH: not to be in charge
DHH: lol
DHH: and to be a lust object
dragonfli: yep
dragonfli: I love that
dragonfli: especially in a threesome
DHH: yeah
DHH: 3 way it's much more objectifying
dragonfli: we I have one person licking and fingering me the other kissing
DHH: :D
dragonfli: yes
DHH: well
dragonfli: like living sex dolls
DHH: he didn't break my hard-on making equipment
DHH: just got stiff thinking of u in a 3 way
DHH: :D

Very funny

Stolen from Simply Layla

A wife, arriving home from a shopping trip was horrified to find her husband in bed with a lovely young woman.

Just as the wife was about to storm out of the house, her husbandstopped her with these words.....Before you leave, I want you to hear how all this came about.

Driving home along the highway, I saw this young woman looking tired and bedraggled, so I brought her home and made her a meal from the roast beef you had forgotten about in the refrigerator. She had only some worn sandals on her feet, so I gave her a pair of good Shoes you had discarded because they had gone out of style. She was cold so I gave her a sweater I bought you for your birthday that you never wore because the color didn't suit you. Her pants were worn out, so I gave her a pair of yours that were perfectly good, but too small for you now.

Then, when she was about to leave the house, she paused and asked....."Is there anything else your wife doesn't use anymore?"

Sucks to be right

Well, dragonfli did, in fact, flake.

I'm not sure how I feel about this.

On one hand, I went to a lot of work (well, some) to prepare a rather nice meal and ge the place ready for some fun. Basically, I lost some time I could have better used otherwise.

On the plus side, I ate well last night, and today, and will for the next few days, cuz, hey, leftovers. And after jerking off to release the pent up sexual longings fueled by all the excitement of the last few days, I did have to wonder whether I would have felt good about it.

As much as I'd like to be a Machiavellian creature, I'm a good boy deep down. I don't like lying. I want to be honorable and keep my promises. I feel pretty empty when I jerk off. I don't feel empty when I have sex with my wife. I do, however, feel frustrated and rejected when I don't get sex from my wife.

I've noticed I'mnot so lusty in the mornings. But by evening, I'm a horn dog. Maybe it's the sexual stimulation coming in from the media. In this case, "the media" means "all those sexually themed blogs I read." I'm no victim.

Vcouple has bagged on today, but proposed next weekend. I dunno how I feel about that. I like them more when I'm horny, and less when I'm "lust sober".

I also feel bad about Smart couple. I like them a lot. I'd like to have a real relationship with them. But I fear they'll reject me due to my being married. So the decision: risk the short term, challenging potential fun for a long term, easier, deeper connection? It depends onthe value of each, and the odds. I think the odds, given their relationship, favor rejecting me if I'm married. But we'll see.... They haven't asked.

Anyway, seems I'll have no play this weekend.

I do keep fantasizing about the girl coming to town on 25th. She's a hottie. It should be fun.

So that's the news for now.

First Date

Had a date with Smart Couple tonight. We've been back and forth online for some time now, trying to find a time that'd work.

This was a "let's meet in a public place and decide if we like each other." date.

We liked each other.

She was cute: floral skirt, black boots, black top. Curvy and fine. Cute. She had her reddish curls up.

He had just shaved his beard and changed his hair, and it looked good. He's a smart guy. Probably always got attention by being smart. But we share a love of the water and camping and other things. She likes cross country skiing. We could hang out as friends and it'd be fine.

Thing is, they don't know I'm married. I haven't said that I am, haven't said that I'm not. I'm not sure how they'll feel. I admit, my strategy is to get folks so interested in the flesh, they don't care about the circumstances. Dunno how we'll make that work out.

Anyway, passed the test.

I think Dragonfli is flaking on me for tomorrow. She disappeared today, and didn't answer her cell.

No biggie. But now I'm thinking of contating Vcouple for a saturday play date.